Tuesday, May 22, 2012

Dead End Kid


Dead End Kid
            I grew up on a dead end street.  At the end of the block, detached garages with cloudy windows flanked an alley that took off to the south.  North of the street, the alley became back yards.  We had two lots.  One abutted those back yard lawns, and the other contained our house.  It was a pre-war attached garage home with a steep wood-shingled roof.  There were several stairs between the driveway and porch.  Our neighbors’ chain link fences ran from the northeast corner of our property to the cross street a block away to the west.  A small church and parsonage graced the northwest end of our street, across from two houses on the southwest corner.  The rest of the south side held a huge garden.  Its perimeter was a Mulberry grove that rose about ten feet above the street.  One corner of the garden held a weathered two-story house a block away on the low hill beside the alley.  The house faced south onto the main street.   
            My brother and I used to sit at our door watching the mulberry trees in the green light of storms and smell the fresh rain mingled with the dust on the screen.  We harvested lilacs in our back yard and made leaf roses by pinching our thumbs and fingers around spirea stems and dragging them outward.  As older kids, we played football in the church yard and kick-the-can under the street light.  It was pretty cool around there.

Wednesday, May 16, 2012

Living Well


Living Well
We all seem to work at living well.  How we do it depends on our circumstances and what we value.  Brother Jim, who is struggling with health problems, values going to work to see customers, and spending time with his dear wife Carmen every day.  Sister Mary treasures her trips to see sons Patrick and Jon, and values other family ties and her creative abilities.  She is a CASA volunteer.  Wife Carolyn and I have values similar to theirs.  Integrity matters to CarolynI go for pragmatic responses to life.  She helps keep me honest, and I help keep it real.   Friend Denny, who is very outgoing, loves his family and has never met a stranger.  He values new experiences and challenges.  Clearly, other people in our lives are part of what it takes to live well—even if you sometimes need to get away and be alone for a while.
Some folks feel that it takes lots of money.  The late Jim Moore once told me that the difference between being rich and being poor came down to comfort.  That was true when he said it years ago, but times have changed.  These days the categories that matter to most of us are not ‘rich’ and ‘poor’.  They are ‘financially adequate’ and ‘destitute’.  More and more, the difference matters in terms of health, physical and mental development, educational ability and opportunities of all kinds.  It’s true that money doesn’t matter unless you don’t have it.  Increasing costs require us to carefully define our spending priorities, and sort away many of the ‘wants’ to accommodate the ‘needs’ of living well. 
Helping other people is part of the deal.  Many of us start as youthful project participants and go on to find something that matters to us.  You could help by encouraging your kids to find such a cause in their lives.  Around here, we have lots of volunteers.  People who help with community theater and other events, and those who help deliver meals, ring bells, and build Habitat for Humanity homes—all sorts of volunteers.  They say a lot about a community.  Rich and not-so-rich people come together to help others and make this a better place to call home.  That is integrity…and pragmatism.  That’s the way it is around here, and I like it.